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迎接婚礼日，新娘婚前保养策略

每一位新娘都想在婚礼那天容光焕发。容易忽视的另一个事实：头发和皮肤要达到巅峰状态必须花费时间。准备得越早，效果就越好。皮肤只有得到均衡保养才能更有好地吸收护肤品。因此，至少要提前一年就开始做准备。想在婚礼上做个完美的新娘，那就来看看我们为你定制的婚前保养策略吧。

婚礼前12个月

基础护肤

1.选择适合你皮肤类型的护肤用品。

清洁皮肤是让皮肤得到均衡营养的第一步。正确的洁面乳，能让你的皮肤在使用半个小时之后仍然感觉很舒服，不会感到紧或者油。

2.清洁脸部肌肤。

如果你化了妆，就要先用卸妆油，然后再用洁面乳（最好是泡沫型的）。造成毛孔堵塞和粉刺的主要原因就是残留在脸上的化妆品，而卸妆油是去除这些残留物的杀手锏。

清洁之后，你应该涂上眼霜或者凝胶，一些皮肤软化剂（为了使你的皮肤更好地吸收护肤品）。如果需要的话，再抹上一层补水保湿乳液。额外的护肤还包括两周一次用磨砂产品去掉老皮和角质，两周敷一次面膜。坚持做这些。在两个月后，你就能看到改善。

3.清洁身体肌肤。

为了让身体肌肤更加润滑，你应该每天淋浴并且用擦澡巾按摩肌肤。摩擦能去掉死皮并且促进血液循环。沐浴过后马上涂上护肤乳保湿。水润肌肤能帮助祛除斑痕。如果你身体上容易长痘，那就要避免摩擦到长痘的区域。沐浴后用一些祛痘产品涂在痘痘上。一些含有水杨酸的护肤品，能有效祛除痘痘并且促进细胞更新帮助皮肤恢复。

4.做好防晒准备。

如果你还没有使用防晒霜（室内用SPF30，室外用SPF50），那么现在就应该行动起来了。坚持使用防晒霜能让你的肤色变得更加匀称。脸和身体都要涂上。

5.护理手和脚。

每天晚上给手和脚做完保湿护理后，再戴上手套，穿上袜子（这就不会弄脏你的床单了）。平常洗澡的时候用软毛刷刷一下你的指甲，能去掉老皮。

护发美发

1.做好头皮清洁。

对于油性头发，平时洗头的时候应该对发梢做营养，而对于干性头发，最好一周做一次发膜保养。

2.体验不同发型和发色。

现在正是体验新发型和新发色的良机。因为即使你对新发型不满意，也有足够的时间让头发长起来。如果你的头发很厚，考虑一下剪出层次；如果你想把平时的发髻换掉，也可以换一个别致的，稍微有点蓬乱的发型。

改变发色也是改变发型的一种方法。在这一点上，发型师可能会给你最好的建议。一般来说，以红色作为基调色的茄紫，酒红或者深栗色会让肤色显得更加红润，而以蓝色为基调色的深黑，紫黑等颜色会让肤色显得偏黄。

减肥塑身 = 运动+节食

   
开始着手你的塑身计划，通过改变饮食习惯和日程，抽出时间来做运动。但是，如果你之前一直减肥不成功，那你将需要更快地把减肥付诸行动。

婚礼前8个月

强化护理

1.开始强化护理皮肤和头发。

如果你觉得皮肤还需要更多的改善，那就每个月去一次护理沙龙或者美容院吧。同样，每个月去做一次深度护理软化头发，头发就会变得像广告里一样。为了大婚日子，这些都是值得的。

2.规划每个月一次海盐浴。

这种天然的去角质的方法能够有效去除皮肤表层的死细胞，尤其是在腋下区域的。海盐浴过后，你的皮肤将更加光滑，富有光泽。另外一个方法是进行身体美白按摩，这能帮助匀称肤色。如果你的余钱够多的话，也可以考虑一下敷体护理。定期做这些护理的话，能提升整体的肤色。

资料搜集

从现在起开始搜集婚礼上可能用到的妆容和发型，与发型师讨论搜集到的时尚杂志封面。

塑身考察

如果你足够勤快的话，节食和运动应该已经起作用了。

继续努力吧！

婚礼前3个月

塑身美体

1.坚持节食和运动。

如果有专门的医生或专家来帮助你做这些，在你需要变更的时候要及时跟他们沟通。

2.报名参加一个瑜伽、调息、放松课程。

瑜伽和普拉提这些运动能有效拉伸你的肌肉。当穿着露肩裙的时候你就能好好炫耀一把了。

3.每天定时喝果汁。

芹菜和青苹果汁组合在一起喝能有效排毒。

护肤冲刺

         
如果你之前一直都没有定期使用面膜的话，那么现在就要抓紧时间敷面膜了。

压力会让肌肤缺水，而每周一次的补水面膜能给皮肤补充足够的水分。或者每周做两次面膜护理：一次净肤，一次补水。有些美白面膜同时也具有很好的保湿性能，你可以用这种面膜代替保湿面膜。

确认造型

1.确认婚礼发型和妆面。

带上搜集到的杂志封面去见你预约好了的发型师。听取发型师的建议，准备好让自己看起来大不相同。这将是一次你不用考虑后果的体验，所以一点也不用担心。

2.与发型师讨论你头发的剪法，发色，漂染，风格，发饰以及其他。

确定在婚礼当天将没有任何问题。同样，详细地与你的化妆师——确认你的妆面。当头发和妆面已经确定下来之后，拍张照片，这样你就可以想象自己穿着婚纱后是什么样子的了。

婚礼前1个月

你的头发和肌肤护理应该已经取得一定的效果，从倒数第二个月开始可以逐渐减少护理次数。

如果你的皮肤状态很好，把一周两次的面膜护理减少到每周一次。在头发上喷一些营养水，保持头发的湿度，看起来更健康。

去美容院

在婚礼前两周就去美容院预订面部护理。

记得提醒美容师不要挤痘痘，以防没有足够的时间让痘痕愈合。

婚礼前1周

合理饮食

1.碳水化合物和多余的盐分会让肌肤变得臃肿。

多喝水，清理肠道，你将变得苗条。跟我一起默念一遍——拒绝面包，拒绝米饭，拒绝面包……

2.规划淋巴按摩排毒。

每周的前几天做这些能去除体内毒素，并且有助于自身放松。每次排毒过后多喝些水。

提前美甲

在婚礼前两天，而不是前一天做你的指甲。保证充足的时间，即使指甲突然不小心弄脏了，也还有时间重做。

放松心态

这周要保持充足的睡眠，多喝水，服用维生素C片。你的皮肤会报答你这些日子的付出的。

婚礼时间到！

穿上你的华美婚纱，尽情地绽放笑容吧！

——你看起来美极了！

Source from: http://www.99meili.com/beauty-2970

Malay Bridal Houses: Mama Kay Wedding Gallery

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• P.A Sistem /DJ 
• Fotografi 
• Dulang Hantaran 

           

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[Tips] Guidelines For Your Wedding Invitation Cards 喜帖筹备过程

Usually the invitation planning started typically 3 to 6 months prior to the wedding day. However, there are also people that only rush to get it done 2-3 weeks before their big day. 

This is mostly done so when all the guests are locals. Usually this will create problems with filling up the blank seats or don’t have enough seats as the couples might have problem adjusting the seats last minutes and to give last minute instructions to the restaurants or hotels.

If you have more then 6 months to your special day, you should start now.

If you have less than 6 months left, don’t freak out. There’s still time and I hope that with this guidelines, you will be able to get the perfect invitation in time to send it out.

Ordering Wedding Invitation Card
Ideally wedding invitations should be ordered at least 3 to 4 months prior to the wedding date. The wedding ceremony date and location, as well as the reception time and location need to be confirmed prior to planning the order. Ordering the invitation as early as possible will provide sufficient time to send the invitations out to outstation guests.

Mailing Invitations
Normally, invitations should be mailed to guests approximately 4 weeks to 6 weeks prior to the ceremony. For outstation guests, this will help them in planning their travel arrangement. The earlier the better.


Number of Invitations Needed
Inviting 200 guests does not mean that you will need 200 invitation cards. Many of the invited guests will be married couples, single couples, and children who will not need their own invitations. Couples are typically included on a single invitations. This is when the guest list comes in handy.


Ordering Extra Envelopes
When writing addresses for your invitations, it is likely that you will make several mistakes. Perhaps the handwriting does not meet your standards, or you wrote the wrong address by mistake. It is best that you order 20% more envelopes than the number of invitations.

一般结婚喜帖筹备过程必须在婚前 3 至 6个月完成。倘若你的宾客都是本地人，须时筹备也可以大量缩短，但如果你不想看到座无虚席，或有多余席位的酒席场面出现，大可现在开始准备喜帖咯！

送出喜帖倍有面子，所以千万要留意一些小细节，才不会让人笑话！

1.被邀请者的姓名应写全名，不应写绰号或别名。
2.在两个姓名之间应该写上“暨” (jì) 或 “和”，不用顿号或逗号。
3.如果明知道人家结婚又只写先生或小姐写法的话，有点没礼貌，好像只想请一个人的感觉。
4.若只知道同事的姓名：可直接写姓名+“全家福”，不用加先生小姐等称谓。
5.用了“全家福”后面不用再加 “收” 或 “啟” 。
6.如果用贤伉儷（无小孩者）直接 + “钧啟” 或 “台啟” 不用再加全家福。
7.信封上不可用“敬啟”、“恭啟”等，不可以叫人家恭敬地打开你的信。

The Traditional Clothes at Malay Weddings

A typical Malay wedding will not be complete without the traditional attire of the bride as well as groom. Depending on the wedding couple, some of the more down-to-earth ones may opt for the super simple yet still stylish baju kurung and baju melayu when they’re getting hitched, while others may choose to wear something more ‘attention-grabbing’ such as Baju Kebarung, Baju Minangkabau, and Baju Cik Siti Wan Kembang. No matter what kind of tradtional Malay outfit you decide to wear, do make sure that it matches well with your wedding theme and your partner’s outfit too. Here are some of the most often worn traditional Malay clothes at Malay weddings:

1. Baju Kurung

There are several different types of Baju Kurung, and they include the basic Baju Kurung, Baju Kurung Kedah, Baju Kurung Pahang, and Baju Kurung Cekak Musang. Baju Kurung may be the least favorite traditional attire at most Malay weddings (though it’s still worn the most) since the outfit is very restricting to your every move, hence the name baju kurung, if loosely translated means ‘caged dress’. The Kedah type is the shorter version of the original, while the Pahang one has an A-line shape. For the Cekak Musang, it has high neckline similar to that of samfoos and cheongsams, but with frog claps.

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2. Baju Kebaya

Among the famous Baju Kebaya include the basic Baju Kebaya, Baju Kebaya Kota Bharu, and Kebaya Nonya. Nowadays, the Malay’s favorite outfit during wedding would be the Kebaya Nonya ones, all thanks to the Baba and Nonya’s hip and trendy-looking Baju Kebaya which really appeals to the young Malay girls due to its simplified intricacy, sweet and feminine design.

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3. Baju Minangkabau.

These sets of wedding attire are not for the faint of heart, as only daredevils would want to wear such garish, striking outfits for their wedding day. The Baju Kebarung, Baju Minagkabau, and Baju Cik Siti Wan Kembang are all classically taylored wedding clothes, and the materials may be thick and itchy as well especially if the sun’s blazing. If you’re a really simple person with overworking sweat glands, forget these heavy clothes and opt for the light, cotton-type wedding outfits.

Source from: http://www.marriagesignature.com/read-and-learn/the-traditional-clothes-at-malay-weddings

Chinese Wedding Planning Basics

Engaged? Congrats! Overwhelmed with the planning process? We've got you covered. Here, a quick run-through of ideas to inspire you, as well as a list of Chinese wedding traditions to keep in mind when planning your wedding day.

1) Determine Your Guest List

In order to make any other decisions, including your wedding date, you'll need to know how many people you're going to invite. Sit down with your fiance and make a list of everyone you want to attend your wedding (your fantasy guest list) then pare it down based on your needs. Whether it's a cozy affair for 50 or a large celebration for 200, determining your guest list first will help you focus on the rest of your wedding details. After you've chosen your guest list, choose your attendants -- that way, they can get started helping you plan.

2) Pick a Date

It is customary for a Chinese couple to consult a fortune-teller or feng shui expert to select an auspicious wedding date. Using the Chinese calendar, the date best suited for the couple is based on their birth dates and Chinese zodiac signs. It's considered good luck to marry on an even day and month of the year. Moreover, the time of the ceremony is traditionally scheduled on the half hour (because time is on the upswing). Nowadays, a consultant could be an uncle or a parent -- so long as the couple doesn't self-analyze (that's considered bad luck!).

3) Choose a Color Scheme

Choosing a theme really depends on your personal style and wedding season. Whether you want to have an all-out Chinese affair or infuse just a few details, color and motif are the perfect places to set the tone for your day. Be inspired by Chinese wedding colors: red (the color of happiness) and gold (the color of wealth) are not only traditional, but they make a beautiful combination when used throughout the wedding day details. And there's no reason you can't do a variation on these bright hues. Go burgundy for a formal evening affair. Or choose raspberry for a spring or summer fete. For a crisp, monochromatic look, choose varying shades of red, from burgundy to pink, to use in your bouquets, cake, and centerpieces. Not a fan of red? Do an all-gold-and-ivory scheme, for a level of sophistication and elegance that's hard to replicate.

4) Start a Paper Trail

For the couple with Chinese- and English-speaking guests, have your invitations printed in both languages. A Chinese printing press will often work with Western printers to produces multilingual stationery. 

5) Hire a Wedding Planner

If you want to have a Western ceremony, tea ceremony, and Chinese wedding banquet (not to mention other activities planned for international or out-of-state guests), you may want to consider hiring a wedding planner. A good coordinator will help you through all the steps, from etiquette questions to flowers and menu options. It may also be a good idea -- if not necessary -- to find a planner familiar with Chinese wedding traditions.

If you're up to the challenge of planning the day solo, you may still want to hire a day-of or on-site coordinator to help smoothly pull together all the day's events. Trust us, you don't want to have to worry about whether the favors made it to your reception site when you're about to get married! If you can't afford to hire a coordinator, ask a close friend or relative to help move the day along. Pick an organized person who wouldn't mind running around for you (perhaps someone who has offered to help already). Provide him or her with a timeline of events for the day to give you peace of mind.

What's Up Next? 

Now that you've set the ball rolling, you'll want to get started hiring your vendors and making detail decisions. Start with the elements most important to you. For picture-perfect memories, put your photographer near the top of your priority list. If you're planning a large banquet, get started scoping out venues and caterers. But first, take a deep breath, relax, and stop for a moment to envision the day you've always been dreaming of -- hao yun (good luck)! 好运！！！

Of course, there are many factors that need to be taken into consideration when choosing a wedding date. Work with your schedule, family, and personal style to determine what time of the year is appropriate for you. And if you do decide to consult the Chinese calendar, remember to include an explanation in your ceremony programs or save-the-dates.

 [ NOTE ] The period from the middle to the end of the seventh lunar month is considered inauspicious. Traditionally, that is the time of the Ghost Festival, when the gates of the underworld are opened and the lost spirits are allowed to wander the earth, making it a less desirable time for a wedding.

Your invitations can be personalized by your own style and wedding's season. For the modern couple, consider a bold foil-stamped dragon on the front of your invite packet, or a vibrant gold double happiness symbol cut out of the front with a bold red background. For a more understated yet elegant look, consider a light bamboo pattern printed as a silhouette at the bottom of your invites and save-the-dates. If you're marrying in the fall, stick with your theme. Choose a rust and olive color combination, but still include the double-happiness symbol next to an autumn leaf on the front of your invites. If sophisticated and classy is your game, then have your invites printed on thin cream-colored paper (think rice paper) and have them wrapped with a burgundy rice paper belly band and secured with a gold cord.

Source from: http://chinese.weddings.com/articles/chinese-wedding-planning-basics-tips.aspx

DIY Wedding Budget Calculator

Are you planning your own wedding and have no clue where to start?  Download your own budget calculator here.

>>The Little Canopy-Free Wedding Budget Calculator <<

Read about guidelines to affordable wedding planning to make sure you have a strong start to your long wedding planning.  There will be so many things you want to have in your wedding, and there will be so many things that you won’t be able to have in your wedding.  Think of the priorities and stay strong!

 >> 10 Steps to a Successful Low Budget DIY Wedding Planning  <<

Screen shot of the Wedding Budget Calculator:

Source from : http://thelittlecanopy.com/atlanta-wedding-inspirations/diy-wedding-budget-calculator

结婚新郎注意细节大盘点

结婚新郎注意细节大盘点拍婚纱照对每个女人来说都是一生最幸福的时刻，每个新娘子都很漂亮，新郎在拍照中就是绿叶嘛，不用特别紧张。但是老公也要注意一些细节，不能因为一个不注意而破坏了这个美妙时刻。

头发

新郎的头发会被化妆师简单吹整一下，但是改变不了太多，最好拍照前一个星期完成新郎的理发。染发也要提前。新娘也是一样。

牙齿

新郎如果牙齿不好，建议使用洁白牙贴之类的先美白一下，或者拍照时坚决不要露齿笑!不然效果很差。

皮肤

新郎不用那么密集地面膜养护，但拍照当天还是要涂一些比较滋润的面霜，不然干干的掉皮，那就要给他也来安瓶啦!

胡子

有的新郎胡子很容易长，早上刮了下午就又长出来了。所以拍照当天要戴上一个电动剃须刀，可以随时刮。

鼻毛

这个有点……呵呵，不过很多男生的确是鼻毛很长，一笑就要眦出来，实在太影响情啦。拍照前一定要修饰一下。新娘自己也要仔细看看喔。

鞋袜

新郎一般很少有机会拍到脚。如果有比较动态的全身像也会出现，保险之计是全黑的袜。但是一般来说配白纱也都会选用白西装，所以白色的皮鞋也是可以选择的。要看新郎新娘自己的想法了。其他五颜六色的鞋子最好不要选用，万一穿帮的话多遗憾啊。

戒指和指甲

新郎的手会有比较多的机会出场，所以指甲修剪一下，千万不要指甲缝带着黑泥上场啊!戒指可以根据需要戴上婚戒或者装饰性强的戒，要看拍摄的风格了。让新郎戴上一个丝绒小袋子，杂七杂八一定要收好装好，换服装的时候一定要检查口袋，不然拍个照还丢了戒指，可就麻烦大啦。

睡眠

拍婚纱照，精神状态最重要。拍摄前一晚如果不能有充足的睡眠，必将影响到拍摄质量。

经验内容仅供参考，如果您需要解决具体问题（尤其在法律、医学等领域），建议您详细咨询相关领域专业人士。

Source from: http://jingyan.baidu.com/article/fea4511a4c001ef7bb91250a.html

Wedding Preparation Lists for the Groom, Best Man and Ushers

While there are some tasks that need to done early in the wedding planning, the groom also has responsibilities for the Big Day, including preparing his team for a smooth, successful event. 

Here are some basic task lists for the men to review.

For the groom:

• Buy an engagement ring.

• Prepare a guest list and indicate who should be seated in reserved pews.

• Invite friends to be the best man and ushers in the wedding.

• Visit the formal-wear specialist to select the wedding attire.

• Choose gifts for the bride, the best man and the ushers.

• Select the wedding ring (this should be done with the bride).

• Plan the honeymoon (this should be done with the bride) in time to assure getting reservations.

• Apply for the marriage license. Check state and local requirements about the time required. This should be obtained several weeks before the wedding and given to the best man the day of the wedding, along with the clergyman’s fee.

• Check to be sure that all of the necessary papers — blood tests, birth certificates, etc. — are complete and available upon request.

For the best man:

• Take charge of the ushers; brief them on special seating arrangements during the rehearsal.

• Keep the wedding ring and have it the day of the ceremony or be sure the ring bearer carries out instructions properly.

• Have the marriage license and clergyman’s fee on hand.

• Help the groom get ready for the wedding.

• Call for and escort the groom to the wedding. Be there at least 15 to 30 minutes before the ceremony begins.

For the ushers:

• Be at the wedding site at least one hour before the ceremony.

• Have a typed list of guests occupying reserved pews. As the guests arrive, ask whether they are friends of the bride or groom and seat them accordingly.

Source from http://www.mlive.com/weddings/index.ssf/2011/01/wedding_preparation_lists_for.html

TRADITIONAL MALAY WEDDING

INTRODUCTION
The Malay people have a culture that is really fascinating. Take a moment and think, the view and situation when you attending a Malay wedding no matter it are your friends or relatives wedding. Is it fascinating and unique? The bride and groom are treated as a Royal of the Day. From the delicious food, the decoration and the outstanding costumes of the bride and groom to the process they have to go in the wedding.

In Malay culture, “the more the merrier” the ceremony. Literally every relatives, colleagues and neighbour been invited to the ceremony.

Islam recommends marriage highly among other things; it helps in the pursuit of spiritual perfection. Islam sees marriage as a foundation of the structure of society, and considers it both a physical and spiritual bond that endures into the afterlife.

FLOW OF MARRIAGE
The Malay marriage is a regal affair. The bride and groom are treated as king and queen for a day.

Betrothal
The pre-wedding meeting between the bride's and the groom's parents will determine the dowry that is to be given to the bride as well as the date of the solemnization. This may be as early as a year before the wedding date so that arrangements could be made in advance. For the engagement, the future groom’s parents will gives a container of betel, a ring and some gifts. To complete the engagement the groom’s mother will put the ring to the bride’s finger.

Akad Nikah (solemnization)

Marriage is a contract, and the akad nikah means the union of the couples. The solemnization is normally presided by a kadhi, a religious official of the Syariat Court. In olden days, the bride's biological father has to perform this function. The akad nikah ceremony is in such a verbal contract between the bride's father or his representative (in this case the kadhi) and the groom. A small sum of money called the mas kahwin seals the contract. The dialogue must be clearly heard by three witnesses.

This ritual shows the tremendous responsibilities of the groom to take care for his bride. Before the solemnization a Kadhi will give a brief lecture on marriage and the responsibilities of the couples. The groom is reminded to take care of his wife and gives both spiritual and physical substance of his wife. This ceremony will takes places at the bride’s house but olden days its holds in the mosques as was performed during the Prophet Muhammad’s S.A.W days.

There is difference between “mas kahwin” and dowry. “Mas kahwin is a small sum of money as a gift from groom to his bride. It is according to the state in Malaysia. Example for Johor the amount of “Mas kahwin” is RM 22.50. The small sum of the “Mas kawin” is to ensure even the poor people could marry. The dowry or gifts on other hand is more customary and may go into thousands of ringgit. It often takes the form of both cash and jewelry or clothing and toiletries or maybe cake and fruits. This are presented in fancy boxes or forms knows as “gubahan”.

Climax of Malay Wedding
Bersanding
The marriage ceremony is actually held twice, first at the bride’s residence then the groom’s. This occasion is held to let the public knows that the couples are been married and the couple sits together on the dais.

The groom arrives at the bride’s house with the beat of kompang drums and flanked by “bunga manggar” carries. He is welcome by a shower of “beras kunyit” and a performance of Malay art, “Silat”. Before the groom is allowed to sit on a dais with his bride, he must give some amount of money called an “entrance fees” to the ladies of the house and if they are satisfied with the amount of money only the groom is allowed to sit on a dais with his bride with hands on their laps.

After that they will be bless called “berinai” ritual. These rituals begin with the oldest of the family members. They will take some yellow-colored turmeric rice (beras kunyit), fried rice grains ( beras pulut) and pat some rose water (air mawar) on the couples hands. Finally a pinch of henna on the palms. The couple will shake hands with their parents, relatives and guests.

DECORATION
All of us know that the decoration is very important in wedding days and preparation of wedding ceremony have to be done early.

DAIS
Family from the both side are very particular about dais for “bersanding” ceremony. It may take several days to construct and create a fascinating dais. Wedding and bridal dais consist of material elements such as pedestal tray, betel leaves box, weapon, tray, bridal bed, adornment, bead and etc. The dais will be construct at the hall of the house so that every single guest who came can see the bride and the bridegroom while “bersanding” ceremony. Usually the bride and the bridegroom will choose their own themes and decide what color that they prefer most.

Basically they will use lot of bouquet of flower to decorate the dais. Usually they will be two chairs which will be seated by the bride and bridegroom.

DOWRY
Basically there is different between dowries and “mas kahwin”.Mas kahwin is a small sum to ensure even poor people could marry. While, dowry is more customary and sometime it can goes up until thousand of Ringgit. The “hantaran” is traditions for Malay to show appreciated from both side and ensure that they are as promised. Usually the gifts are known as gubahan and it will be decorate nicely because it will be displayed in the bridal chamber. They use any kind of material such as lace, flowers and ribbon to decorate that gift.

BUNGA TELUR
Guest will be given a “bunga telur” before they leave the wedding ceremony. They belief that, by giving an egg that married couple will produce many children. In fact, in Islam married couples are advises to produce many children so that Islam can expand to the whole world. Nowadays, the gift was being modified. The modernalisation make people try to find gift that commercially prepared for examples chocolates, jelly, or a cake of soap.

THE ATTIRE OF MALAY TRADITIONAL WEDDING
Most of Malay traditional wedding are wearing songket. These songket are commonly come from Palembang, South Sumatera, East Bali, and China. Songket is made from the brocade of textiles. It is a rich, luxurious, ceremonial fabric, handwoven in silk or cotton, and elaborately patterned with gold and sometimes silver threads on the background cloth. The effect of light and gentle shadow on the fabric creates a gorgeous shimmering effect, making them King for the Day.

Both bride and bridegroom are wearing songket in their occasion. For bridegroom attire, he is wearing a suit of baju melayu with sampin, tanjak, and keris. There are two types of baju melayu which is included Baju Melayu Cekak Musang and Baju Melayu Teluk Belanga. His sampin and tanjak normally are from songket materials. Malay tanjak or tengkolok is worn and complements exquisitely the traditional full Malay costume of Baju Melayu. Keris is symbol of the warrior.

While for his bride, she is wearing baju kebaya which is made by songket and at the same time the beauticians will make sure that the bride simply perfect by wearing tiara. Besides that, she is wearing other accessories such as a set of bracelet, a set of necklace, earrings and rings. This rings are be given from her bride in betrothal level and during solemnization event. In addition, this couple will be covered with henna paste. This henna will be pasted before the solemnization event begins.

CUISINE
Malay traditional Cuisine is a must in every Malay wedding, the food is served buffet style so that everyone attended the wedding can help themselves to what they want. No cutlery will be given and one must eat with their right hand. A pot of water will be put on the table so everyone can wash their hand.

The cuisine serve in a wedding ceremony is like Rendang, cooked pumpkin, Gulai, fruit Achar, Pajeri Nenas, Ayam Masak Merah and lot of other dishes that is depend on the bride and groom family.

There are varieties of rice serve at a wedding that is plain white rice, Nasi Minyak (scented rice) and Nasi Beriyani (rice with spices). Nasi minyak is commonly served in traditional Malay wedding.Nasi minyak is cooked with butter ,ginger ,coconut milk and several of spices while Nasi Beriyani is cooked with saffron and spices that makes it slightly yellowish and full of flavour.

Beef rendang is a must have in every Malay weddings which is yummy .The rendang is cooked with beef cubes, coconut milk and several of spices to arouse the nice smell and gravy the beef.

Pajeri Nenas which is pineapple cooked in a thick sweet kerisik flavoured sauce .Kerisik is refers to toasted grated coconut that is mostly used in Malay dishes.

Ayam Masak Merah is another must have in weddings. The chicken that is chopped into pieces will be cooked in a spicy red tomato sauce and onion.

The condiment commonly serve in weddings is achar which are pickled vegetables and some mixed vegetables that consist of sliced cucumber, pineapple and onion tossed in vinegar.

CONCLUSION
As the conclusion a Malay traditional wedding needs lot of preparation so that everything will be smooth. They are very particular about the decoration especially in making a dais. Basically, they are several level needs to go through by a couple before being husband and wife. They are spying, betrothal, and lastly akad nikah. Normally the bride will wear a cloth which been made by songket and also some accessories. On the wedding day usually they will serve a traditional food for the guest and bunga telur to show their appreciation.

Source from:

http://hazwani-rusha.blogspot.com/2007/09/traditional-malay-wedding.html

Grooming Tips for the Groom

Your wedding day is one of the times that you won’t get by with greasy hair, chewed nails, and wearing your dirty alma mater hoodie. We know it’s not always easy for us guys to take the time to look good (it’s just so much easier not to). Here are some simple steps the groom can take to look his best on the big day:

Hair Cut

This one’s obvious. Get your hair cut about a week in advance of the wedding. 

Stick to your normal barber and with your usual style. You don’t want to experiment with a new look that you’re not going to be able to undo before the wedding.

Try a Manicure/Pedicure

All joking aside, trying a manicure/pedicure might not be a bad idea. There are sure to be many up close photos of the rings, so you want your nails to look great. Plus, they’re actually kind of relaxing (or so we hear).

Get a Massage

Who doesn’t love a massage? If you’ve never been to a professional masseuse, we strongly recommend it. It’s the perfect way to release all of that wedding planning stress and tension. If you’re looking for a creative groomsmen gift, how about treating all of your boys to one as well?

Take a Trip to the Dentist

Can you even remember the last time you had a dentist appointment? Get your teeth cleaned about a month before the wedding and continue your normal brushing routine. (3 times a day, right?)

Tickets to the Gun Show

Many groom-to-be’s start a workout routine in the months before the wedding in order to get ripped for the big day as well as the honeymoon. Our advice is to push back your tux fitting as long as possible so you can take account for your bulging biceps.

Eat Well, Drink Well

Keeping a good diet will contribute greatly to your wedding day looks. Drink lots of water to keep your skin healthy and clear. Avoid fast food to maintain that physique you’ve worked so hard to develop. Of course, we’d tell you to cut out beer – but we want to be taken seriously.

Source from http://www.mywedding.com

The 7 Blessings of a Hindu Wedding

The Hindu ceremony, a rite known as 'samskara', has many components and it is quite beautiful, specific and filled with chanting, Sanskrit blessings and ritual that is thousands of years old. In India, it can last weeks or days. 

It is the role of the Hindu priest or 'pandit' to lead a couple and their families through the sacrament of marriage. 

An important aspect of the Hindu ceremony is to light a sacred fire, created from 'ghee' (clarified butter) and woolen wicks, to evoke the God, Agni (Fire God), to bear witness to the ceremony.

The highlight is 'Saptapadi', also called the 'Seven Steps'. Here, traditionally the bride’s sari is tied to the groom’s kurta, or a sari shawl might be draped from his shoulder to her sari. He leads, her pinky linked with his pinky, in seven steps around the fire, as the priest chants the seven blessings or vows for a strong union. By walking around the fire they are agreeing to these. With each step, they throw small bits of puffed rice into the fire, representing prosperity in their new life together. This is considered the most important part of the ceremony, it seals the bond forever.

A nice way to adapt this into a creative, contemporary ceremony is to light a traditional fire, or use a candle, placed on a small table in front of the wedding altar. Bride and groom can be in tux and white dress as they take seven steps while seven blessings are spoken in English. Here are Seven Blessings adapted from a Hindu ceremony.

1. May this couple be blessed with an abundance of resources and comforts, and be helpful to one another in all ways.

2. May this couple be strong and complement one another.

3. May this couple be blessed with prosperity and riches on all levels.

4. May this couple be eternally happy.

5. May this couple be blessed with a happy family life.

6. May this couple live in perfect harmony… true to their personal values and their joint promises.

7. May this couple always be the best of friends.

One thing I appreciate about the Hindu ceremony is that bride and groom come to the altar as God and Goddess, in human form. In many parts of India the bride is considered Lakshmi, Goddess of Fortune, and groom is her consort Vishnu, the Great Preserver.

I believe every bride and groom should walk down the aisle feeling divine!

Source from

http://hinduism.about.com/od/matrimonial1/a/7blessings.htm

10 biggest thing that brides forget to plan

With all the planning you’re doing right now, it’s hard to imagine there’s any detail you haven’t thought of, but trust us, there are certain to-dos that somehow we forget to add to the list. Here are the top ones we hear about all the time.

1. Making post-wedding plans

We’re not talking about the honeymoon here (who would forget to plan that?). We mean you need to decide what you’re doing immediately after your wedding. If you don’t want the party to end with the last dance, you should pick a late-night spot in or near one of the guest hotels. If privacy isn't all that important, book your wedding night room in the same hotel as your guests. If you just want to get to bed, we strongly suggest you book a room elsewhere.

2. Bringing your overnight bag

If you’re allowed to check into your hotel room early—and you don’t personally need to be there to officially check in— pick someone to drop your overnight bag at your hotel before your ceremony starts. A guest who’s staying at the same place will more than likely be happy to do this for you, since they’re going to have to check in anyway! If your things can’t arrive sooner than you, ask a bridesmaid to be responsible for bringing your bag to the wedding and finding a safe spot for it in the bridal suite. Even easier, if you’ll have the same car or limo for the entire day and night, opt to keep your stuff in the boot.

3. Picking someone to take your things home after the reception

Your gifts, mementos (think toasting flutes, cake topper, unity candle and guest book) and any leftover food, booze or cake need a trusty escort to get them home. Choose a person and let them know about their responsibility. If you’re changing out of your gown before you head to your hotel room, you’ll need a person to take it home, too— even if you have no plans to get it professionally preserved, you don’t want to leave it behind! Make sure there’s a hanger and a garment bag on hand (the one your dress came with will do!) so your gown stays in tip-top shape.

4. Deciding where everything goes

Besides planning where all of your guests sit, you need to figure out where you’ll put programs, escort and place cards, and menus (if you’re having them) and bomboniere. Once you've picked who’s going to set these out—your wedding coordinator, bridesmaids and banquet managers are all good choices—give them clear instructions on where they should go (one bomboniere on every other plate at tables, for instance, if you want couples to share the takeaways, or all of them in two baskets by the exits if you want guests to pick them up on the way out). Also, if your venue’s staff will be setting out these items, find out when you can drop everything off—some venues want everything a couple of days before your wedding; others won’t take anything until the actual day.

5. Decorating the other areas

Of course, no guest will walk out of your wedding if the bathrooms and cocktail bar are left bare. But with all the energy that’s put into dressing up the reception and ceremony spaces, you might want to put in the small extra effort to give these spots the decor they deserve. A few candles will work.

6. Buying gifts for the wedding party

When gifts are constantly coming to your door, it’s hard to remember that you also need to dole some out! So who makes it on the gift list? Everyone who plays a role in your day—yes, your parents and future in-laws, too. You don’t need to make a big presentation.

7. Choosing how to gather the gifts

There are three times when guests are likely to thrust gifts at you: while they’re in the receiving line, during your table visits and when they leave for the night. Designate a person—one of your bridesmaids, your mum or your groom’s mum—to collect envelopes, and have them by your side with a large but inconspicuous bag when you’re saying hello and goodbye to your guests. That person should also keep an eye out for guests who seem a little lost at the reception—they may be trying to figure out where they should put their gift! If you decide instead to have a wishing well, box or other stationary receptacle, tell a few people to subtly spread the word around.

8. Figuring out your day-after plans

If you’re leaving for your honeymoon straight from your hotel, make advance arrangements for a car service to take you from the hotel to the airport, and be sure you bring any luggage you want with you on your trip (and a passport if you need it). If you’re not going on your honeymoon right away, then you need to know where you’re going the morning after your wedding (to your new or old home, or your parents’ house?) and how you’re going to get there. Park your car at the hotel before your wedding if you’re allowed, or ask a friend to come pick you up and bring you where you want to go the next day. Don’t schedule your ride too early—with any luck, you’ll be exhausted.

9. Bringing the legal documents

Signing your marriage certificate after the wedding ceremony is one of the most important aspects of your day! After all the hours of planning, you’re probably more focused on the party afterwards than the legal side of your nuptials, but without the paperwork, all the stress and money spent will be for nothing. Your celebrant should hopefully keep you on top of all the legal requirements, such as lodging your Notice of Intended Marriage at least one month and a day before your wedding day, and bringing along three marriage certificates for you to sign on the day. Check with them a few days before the wedding so you can have peace of mind.

10. Making and confirming itineraries

Check in with every single supplier, from the limo driver to the linen rental company, one week before your wedding. Many of them will beat you to it, so be ready to go over times and locations whenever you get a call. Send out agendas to your bridesmaids and groomsmen, too—how else will they know what time you’re taking photos? If someone in the bridal party is notorious for being late, start their schedule half an hour early just in case.

Source from internet l http://theknot.ninemsn.com.au/wedding-planning/wedding-planning-wedding-planning/essential-tips/10-biggest-things-brides-forget/2